I’ve not fully read the book yet but I do intend to finish it this year. My book list has grown substantially and with the busy summer, time has been against me. No more. I love reading, I love the feel, touch and smell of any good book. Books are an escape from reality but by the same token, can bring you closer to the reality that is you. Books can tell you a lot about yourself and who you want to be. They secretly expose what you long for, what you crave, whatContinue reading “There is no greatness where simplicity, goodness and truth are absent.”
It’s been a while and life as I know it has been crazy. Sick kids, sick dog, lots and lots of work and the start of a new school year have kept me running in circles. But as fall has come, the seasons are changing, I too want to turn a new leaf.
I’ve grown immensely this past year in my position at the marketing agency I work at. I’ve continued to educate myself, find new tools, new people, new knowledge, tactics and strategies. Marketing is a fast changing landscape and I want to be the best I can be. I was able to be a part of some growth hacking campaigns and realized again, how much I love to learn about people. How people think, what they want, what they know, the feedback they have to share and the why’s behind it.
While not everyone believes in personality tests, for me personally and my husband, they have proven to be surprisingly accurate. I am by this test and INFJ: Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging. Apparently it is the more rare form of them all, with less than 1% of the population that fit the bill. How true it hold though. If you know me you’d bet that I was extroverted when in reality I am very very introverted. I love living in my head and having time to myself, to reflect and to think. By that same token however, I am as empathetic and curious as they come and this is where my “extrovertedness” appears. I genuinely care about people, their feelings, their thoughts, their story. I want to hear it, I want to learn from them and I want to understand. It drives my husband and sometimes even my children a little crazy when I ask:
Why? Why do I want to know? Why do you not?
Take the time to know your co-workers, your teachers, your friends and even your family. Talk to a stranger at the grocery store, the waiter at the restaurant and inquire about them. Often, you’ll be pleasantly surprised what you can learn. If you aren’t a talker, that’s fine too. Remember, I am introverted and there are a lot of situations I just don’t feel comfortable to speak to someone. How can you still learn? By watching. Observing the world around you is one of the most underutilized skills of this generation in my opinion. I watch people go about their day while missing magical moments and situations all the time. As a photographer by heart, I am naturally on the lookout for these moments, but I also make it a conscious effort to observe the world as it happens around me. I find joy and sadness but both are healthy emotions. It stimulates the mind and soul to observe events, people, nature, and oneself. It allows for reflection and discussions that otherwise would never happen.
Over the summer I’ve observed my life less than I like. I was busy and tired with not enough hours in the day. But how can I write about the beautiful world as I see it, when I haven’t paid attention? I can’t and I haven’t. This in turn weighs on my mind and life as I know it is now life as I don’t want it. The beauty of self reflection and being observant is the chance to catch these things and to actively change what doesn’t make you happy. So with fall and this new season, life as I know it may not happen, but life as I want it will.
A change in priorities, a want for more and a passion for life, love and family are part of my plan. A plan for more wisdom, more knowledge, more patience, better understanding and compassion for others and myself.
As the seasons change, what will you change?
“Change is the end result of all true learning.”
― Leo Buscaglia
Isn’t that the truth? What a beautiful quote and great start to my week, and hopefully yours. Change is one of those things one loves and hates at the same time. I for one, usually have a tougher time with change than most. I like my set schedule, my routine, knowing what comes tomorrow. Lately I have been thinking about it though. Is that smart? Or do I just live my life without actually living it. It’s like a well oiled machine, it functions and runs but to what end? Where is it taking me, or rather, where am I taking myself? What have I done so far in this life and what do I really want to achieve? A friend asked me some tough questions Friday night. When you wake up in the morning, what’s the first thing that brings you into thought? When you go to sleep, what are you pondering? When you wake up in the middle of the night and can’t go back to sleep, what do you do? What would you do for free just so you could do it because you have an burning urge to do it but you can’t say why? What is that?
I thought I’d have to think on that for a while, but to my surprise the answers came fast. 3 total and yes, they include photography and children. I am not ready to disclose those 3 thoughts just yet, but I wanted to share the questions. I learn a little bit from every person I meet. I think everyone should learn something from every person they meet. Learning doesn’t just have to be positive either. Think about it. Friday night, I learned a little bit about myself. Who am I kidding. A lot. It was there all along but it took questions and a conversation to put it in perspective. Sometimes those revelations are just plain scary. I learned, now I am changed. Changed inside, but stuck in an external rut. Now that needs to change. To me, that’s hard. With every change and self discovery, there are more questions:
How? When? What? With Who? Alone? Together? Time? Smart? Silly? And so on.
I am lucky to have a very supportive husband. He lets me talk about my thoughts for hours, listens to my different ideas, my back and forth as I struggle to decide, my ups and downs with my passionate heart and then he offers feedback. You see, he is the realistic one, the grounded one. I am an INFJ – which means I am very intuitive and feeling, where as he is an INTJ – a thinker above all, a strategist. Don’t mistake me for a head in the clouds kind of gal though, you couldn’t be further from the truth.
But talking and having feedback from a thinker, emotions set aside is invaluable. Especially for someone like me, who is on a mission to never stop learning. Yes, I’ve realized that when you never stop true learning, then you will always have to change. You have to evolve, grow and start again. I am happy though, as much as I don’t like change, I need it. We need it. It stops us from becoming complacent, from becoming a machine that runs at the same speed, day in and day out. It forces us to reevaluate ourselves, our surroundings, our life. It forces us to adapt and challenges us by taking away the comfort we now. Once you know something will make you a better person, or a worse, you can’t “unknow” it. You are faced with a choice, will you live on with the knowledge and not change, or will you take that knowledge and change?
Most things don’t change overnight. Change takes time. It’s an ongoing process, hopefully with the goal of becoming a better and happier person.
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
It’s been a long long time since I have read this book. I’ve seen it pop up more than once recently and I think it’s great. If you are in need of a book that will change your life and the way you see the world this is for you. There is a joke that I am the cranky German, especially beforeContinue reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People”