Home Is Where You Are Loved The Most And Act The Worst.

home, love, quote

How true is this? I haven’t heard this quote like this before but it makes so much sense to me. One would think that at home, where you are most loved, most respected, most welcome, you’d be your best too. But you aren’t because you are also most comfortable there, most relaxed. You know that at home love is strong and your family loves you for who you are. With all the good and all the bad you have to offer. You know that when you have a bad day, they may be upset, but you’ll be forgiven. You have trust and faith in your family that they can handle you and Continue reading “Home Is Where You Are Loved The Most And Act The Worst.”

There is no greatness where simplicity, goodness and truth are absent.

“There is no greatness where simplicity, goodness and truth are absent.” ― Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace

I’ve not fully read the book yet but I do intend to finish it this year. My book list has grown substantially and with the busy summer, time has been against me. No more. I love reading, I love the feel, touch and smell of any good book. Books are an escape from reality but by the same token, can bring you closer to the reality that is you. Books can tell you a lot about yourself and who you want to be. They secretly expose what you long for, what you crave, what Continue reading “There is no greatness where simplicity, goodness and truth are absent.”

Fall ~ Tales of the New Season & Life as I know it

It’s been a while and life as I know it has been crazy. Sick kids, sick dog, lots and lots of work and the start of a new school year have kept me running in circles. But as fall has come, the seasons are changing, I too want to turn a new leaf.

I’ve grown immensely this past year in my position at the marketing agency I work at. I’ve continued to educate myself, find new tools, new people, new knowledge, tactics and strategies. Marketing is a fast changing landscape and I want to be the best I can be. I was able to be a part of some growth hacking campaigns and realized again, how much I love to learn about people. How people think, what they want, what they know, the feedback they have to share and the why’s behind it.

While not everyone believes in personality tests, for me personally and my husband, they have proven to be surprisingly accurate. I am by this test and INFJ: Introverted, Intuitive, Feeling and Judging. Apparently it is the more rare form of them all, with less than 1% of the population that fit the bill. How true it hold though. If you know me you’d bet that I was extroverted when in reality I am very very introverted. I love living in my head and having time to myself, to reflect and to think. By that same token however, I am as empathetic and curious as they come and this is where my “extrovertedness” appears. I genuinely care about people, their feelings, their thoughts, their story. I want to hear it, I want to learn from them and I want to understand. It drives my husband and sometimes even my children a little crazy when I ask:But Why Asks the INFJ

Why? Why do I want to know? Why do you not?

Take the time to know your co-workers, your teachers, your friends and even your family. Talk to a stranger at the grocery store, the waiter at the restaurant and inquire about them. Often, you’ll be pleasantly surprised what you can learn. If you aren’t a talker, that’s fine too. Remember, I am introverted and there are a lot of situations I just don’t feel comfortable to speak to someone. How can you still learn? By watching. Observing the world around you is one of the most underutilized skills of this generation in my opinion. I watch people go about their day while missing magical moments and situations all the time. As a photographer by heart, I am naturally on the lookout for these moments, but I also make it a conscious effort to observe the world as it happens around me. I find joy and sadness but both are healthy emotions. It stimulates the mind and soul to observe events, people, nature, and oneself. It allows for reflection and discussions that otherwise would never happen.

Over the summer I’ve observed my life less than I like. I was busy and tired with not enough hours in the day. But how can I write about the beautiful world as I see it, when I haven’t paid attention? I can’t and I haven’t. This in turn weighs on my mind and life as I know it is now life as I don’t want it. The beauty of self reflection and being observant is the chance to catch these things and to actively change what doesn’t make you happy. So with fall and this new season, life as I know it may not happen, but life as I want it will.

A change in priorities, a want for more and a passion for life, love and family are part of my plan. A plan for more wisdom, more knowledge, more patience, better understanding and compassion for others and myself.

As the seasons change, what will you change?

How to Win Friends and Influence People

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

TogetherIt’s been a long long time since I have read this book. I’ve seen it pop up more than once recently and I think it’s great. If you are in need of a book that will change your life and the way you see the world this is for you. There is a joke that I am the cranky German, especially before Continue reading “How to Win Friends and Influence People”

Alice Herz-Sommer – The Lady in Number 6

A Story about Survival, Love, Passion and Music

Alice Herz-Sommer a concentration camp survivor at 106 full of life
Alice Herz-Sommer

I hope you have tissues ready. I really do. I found this video a while back and have been watching it repeatedly for the last week. Growing up in Germany, you learn about the war, the concentrations camps, you read books, you discuss, you learn, you visit concentration camps, you watch videos, you learn the smell of death – because it still lingers, you can feel death and despair, you learn how heavy these places feel. But you can never truly know what it’s like. You can only imagine. You’ll never truly understand as a kid, I didn’t. I knew it was horrible, I felt horrible, I didn’t understand why. But watching Alice, now that I am a grown up, I am moved by her story, it put everything in perspective. It changed the way I perceived what happened.

Unfortunately the world lost a wonderful and inspiring lady who lived to be Continue reading “Alice Herz-Sommer – The Lady in Number 6”

The Legacy I’ll Leave My Children

My LegacyIt was my daughters 11th birthday last Saturday and it didn’t hit me until today, when I read a post about leaving your legacy by the lovely ladies from Ask Ajna, how fast time has gone by. It feels like it was yesterday (yes, so much cliché) when I found out I was pregnant, gave birth 9 months later and even when she took her first steps. While it feels like yesterday, it has been 11 years and in those 11 years we have been through ups and downs in life. We have moved more than once and across continents too! We have been through deployments, divorce and the mental illness of family members. We have been through thick and thin and today it hit me. We are past half of her childhood and I feel like I missed most of it.

She is a gifted child, is in the gifted program at school and tested Continue reading “The Legacy I’ll Leave My Children”

Black and White.. or is it?

Journey I favor Black and White photographs, pencil or coal drawings. Obviously, if you look at my blog 🙂 To me there is something mystical, oddly romantic about black and white. We see colors every day, most pictures are in color, we know the colors of our surroundings, we never question anything. Black and White gives it depth and character. Colors are noisy to my eyes but a simple black and white theme can be applied to ANYTHING and it works. Mono pictures (which is another term for Black and White) can be very emotional and moody. They set the stage for pictures that can tell stories. There is a certain purity to these pictures in my mind.  Continue reading “Black and White.. or is it?”